My husband is a good black man, however he still has some growing to do and the devil is busy trying to stop, slow down and/or change his destiny. See I know that he has a calling on his life and God has a plan and purpose for our marriage. That is one of the reasons we have had such a struggle in our marriage. However, I know and see God is changing us. We laugh, talk and are more patient with each other. I see him trying to do better and enjoying my company more.
I have changed a lot also. I try to keep the house up to his standards. I am more submissive to him. I actually listen and minimze my rebutles. lol However, I am my own person. I am finally at the place where if we disagree it is ok. We don't have to agree on everything, we are still individuals who have different opinions. I enjoy hanging out with me. I like my company so I am not hanging on his heels all the time. I think in the past that is were I went wrong. A older lady told me to alway be availble to him and that was bad advice. As people we need to be missed sometimes and we are more attractive when we have our own life! Don't lose yourself in any situation, relationship or job. When you lose yourself you will notice that no one wants you not even you. When you take time to find out who you truly are you will love you more and appreciate you and everyone else will also. Being good to you becomes contagious. lol Love you today...and you will show other how to in the process
